friend of mine asked me my opinion on how to get a girlfriend the other day, and as I’m giving him my advice, I thought this might interest you as well.
Some guys want to get a girlfriend, for whatever reason…
Maybe you’re just looking to have steady company, or you’d like regular intimacy with a girl that’s more than just a friend with benefits
Maybe you want to find a deeper emotional connection, or you want to have somebody to snuggle up with over the winter
Maybe you want to take a break from “the game”, or maybe you want to get married and have kids?
Whatever the motives, here’s how to get a girlfriend, in 5 steps… and while this may contrast with advice in other articles on how to seduce women quickly, it actually doesn’t differ that much… you’ll see.
RULE #1: TO GET A RELATIONSHIP, DON’T
LOOK FOR A RELATIONSHIP!
If you do, it will make you needy with every girl you talk to.
If you want her to be with you, and only you, forever and ever and all that other Disney propaganda, she will pick up on the needy vibe in a heartbeat. And if you try to “get her” for a relationship before she signals that she might be open to that idea… you’re toast.
In nature, it’s the female’s role to try and get the most attractive guy to commit to her. This is because, as we talked about in “ What Women Want,” women unconsciously class men they’re interested in romantically in two groups – the LOVERS and the PROVIDERS:
Often women will have a hot affair with a guy who might not make the perfect daddy, but who has a lot of traits that she finds sexually very attractive. He is the ideal LOVER, and women often chase after this kind of guy and try to MAKE him into a provider.
At the same time, there is another type of man who might not have the same sex appeal, but who makes up for it with better qualities as a father and breadwinner. This type of guy is usually chasing after HER… and even if he does get her, she will usually hold all the power in the relationship.
Which one would you rather be?
A guy who is looking for a relationship is also
less attractive and hence less able to attract women .
Don’t be TOO easy… human beings have the intriguing characteristic of being unable to value that which they don’t have to work hard for. Everybody loves a challenge… especially women.
If you’re chasing after her and trying to win her as your girlfriend, you are implicitly communicating that you are the provider … in other words, that you don’t have the sexually attractive traits of a worthy lover, who is confident that she will chase him… or who won’t care either way, for that matter, because he has a lot of options.